Acceptance

Acceptance is a decision we all have to make at some point in our lives. Denial of our situations may just add colour to our already stacked stress pile. So if it’s difficult for you to accept the idea of agreeing with others, think about it, what’s stopping you? Agreeing doesn’t mean you’re surrendering or compromising. Mindful acceptance is just responsibility in disguise.

If we reflect on our lives right now, we’ll probably find so many things shaded in acceptance, isn’t it? If the internet crashes right before something important, don’t we sigh, crib, and eventually… accept? So why process acceptance as a burden or something harsh? Breathe, blink slowly, and let your system readjust. Acceptance isn’t giving up, it’s giving in, just enough to stop fighting the things that already are.

Sift through your memory box for a moment. Back at home, acceptance is like when moms know deep in their soul that everyone will forget where the matchbox is (when lighting candles for birthday), even though it’s been in the same drawer for years. Do they scream? Hmm, debatable but generally, not always! Most of the time they just walk over, hand it to you, and give that silent-yet-loud look that says, “Use your vision… acceptance is survival!” Now swing to your dad most of them accept they either don’t know everything, or know everything. Now that’s a survival skill! So much to learn from others with a smile. Accept it.

Acceptance will happen when you realise not everything needs fixing. Some things just need to be felt, observed, learned, laughed at, and not carried away by. When you accept your situation, you might feel the strength within, to manage your life and make good decisions for yourself. Sometimes it’ll be bold like letting go of an addiction (procrastination counts). Other times, it’s just letting your hair frizz on a humid day because fighting it is a full-time job. Acceptance may trick you, so be well-informed and prepare yourself. Learn from your experiences and stop wrestling with them internally. It’s really not worth your time.

Whether it’s dealing with unexpected results, messages or emails, plans that fell through, or people who will never reciprocate the way you wished know this for a fact, acceptance isn’t losing. It’s choosing where your energy goes.

And if all else fails… do what our moms do, give it that look, maybe mutter something under your breath, then carry on like the world runs on your snacks and silent strength.

Because sometimes… it kind of does.

#hinabeg